How to Make Your Intentions a Reality
- By Jennifer Roe
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- 07 Feb, 2019
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And Make 2019 Your Best Year Ever
As we ask ourselves what this year is going to bring, we look for ways to make improvements however we see fit. How will I accomplish what I need to accomplish?
What is this pull I am feeling and how do I answer it? Whatever it is you have been feeling since the beginning of the New Year, pay attention. Whether you are intuitive or not, we all tend to feel an inclination to better ourselves, to try something new, to set goals.
Some of us may be more apt to accomplish these things than others, but why is that? Is it luck? Is it focus and determination? Does it come down to a personality trait or to a certain way of thinking? Or is it a way of setting intention and believing that you create your own path and destiny? Is it actual energy waves that are created by our heart centered beliefs? There is a reason that there is so much emphasis put on the power of positive thinking, the law of attraction, the idea that we as humans can create our own destiny, and control our path, just by thinking that something is going to happen a certain way.
We are energetic beings and when we focus our thoughts in a positive and truly heart felt way-we can create what we want. It may sound crazy to some of you… but is it?
The majority of us like to start the New Year with some sort of intention. Some people call it a resolution, others call it a goal. I have friends who choose a word to define what the year to come will be about, as do I. As this New Year began, it was accompanied by a big sigh of relief. It felt like so many of us were ready to let the previous year go. The previous year that in a nutshell felt very restrictive for some, traumatic for others, and overall a year to wade through—it brought up a lot, it caused us to really look within and go through some of those dark shadows to unearth what needed to be unearthed.
This year however, feels fresh, there is an invigorating energy that accompanies it. One with promise, potential, expansion.
What do we do with this freshness, this new energy? What intentions can be set in order to change things that weren’t working for us in the past? Do we want to feel more empowered? Do we want to be more successful? Do we want to expand and grow as human beings? The bottom line is that goals require change accompanied by focused intention. Goals can involve changing a behavior, changing a routine, changing the way we think and focusing our thoughts. Change requires getting out of our comfort zone and doing something that we are not used to doing, something that may make us uncomfortable. This can trigger the over thinking mind and put us in a place of fear. In The Untethered Soul, Michael A. Singer talks about how the mind loves to create fear, loves to talk us out of things, loves to tell us all the reasons why we can’t do something.
The key is to recognize when the ego is speaking and dismiss it. Don’t get wrapped up in fearful thinking about the how’s and the why’s of this change, keep it simple, keep it clear. This can be said for the most minor of goals to the most major of goals.
“There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it” ― Michael A. Singer
Intention can be a very powerful thing especially when it is directed in a whole hearted, focused way. It is changing the way we think by focusing on an end result rather than all of the baby steps it takes to get us there. As I mentioned above, you have all heard about the power of positive thinking as well as the law of attraction, but have probably wondered exactly what they mean or exactly how they work.
Yes, like creates like, but it takes more than just being positive about something. It is more than putting a vision board together and saying this is what I want. It is about truly believing in what you want to achieve, it is about truly sending out those energy waves to create an end result. How do you see yourself when you have reached the goal or intention you set? How do you look? What does it feel like? You must envision this place and sit with exactly how you would feel if your intention and goal became a reality and embrace it.
It is a matter of freeing your mind from any fear or cluttered thoughts and really being one with that intention while surrounding it with light, gratefulness, and love. This requires turning off the mind and releasing the fear, this is true manifestation.
The Power Path out of Santa Fe, New Mexico has an online training course on the medicine wheel and the four directions. They talk about the power of each direction and what it represents, and how there is medicine in each direction-East, South, West, and North. As with everything, it is a cycle and each of these directions has a primary quality to it and depending on where you are, these qualities can either challenge or support you.
For example, the West is about intention. If you are in a place of clarity and positive thinking and can focus on exactly what you want, it creates a clear vision, and will support you. However, if you are in a place of fear, a place where your mind is racing about all of the details around how you are going to get there, about how the change may affect you, all of the what if’s, it creates a mind focused obsession which then challenges the intention, clouds it up, and creates obstacles. This will then affect how it moves to the North when it is time for action or the full expression of movement.
If you enter this place with a clear vision, the action phase can be effortless. If you enter this place with mind focused obsession, the action phase will be a struggle. You can liken this to how you start your morning. If you wake up grumpy, are running late, feel overwhelmed with not enough time, often times your day leads to one with obstacles and strife. Whereas, if you wake up in a peaceful state, have time to exercise or meditate, and take your day from there, it tends to flow much smoother. Intention works in the same way. Remember, there are two sides to every coin and it is your choice what side you want to be on.
The power of setting your intention and manifesting what you want comes down to fully trusting in spirit, planting those seeds, and truly believing that the unobstructed vision of where you want to be is going to happen. You need to be in it, feel it, surround it with gratefulness, love, and light, and embrace it. You can be the owner of your destiny, you do have the ability to manifest what you want in your life. We are energetic beings and as such, what we put out there comes back to us.
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- Write, write, and write some more. What do you want in your life? How do you want to feel? What do you want to achieve? Are you choosing to live in a way that is in alignment to where you want to be? When we put things to paper, it is setting intention which can bring us clarity as to next steps. Remember, we are our own guides and intention is putting energy in motion.
- Visualize. What does it look like when you are where you want to be? What does it feel like? Imagine it, and feel the feeling as if it has already happened. Practicing this regularly is again resonating with the energetic alignment of where you want to be. It is a powerful form of manifestation.
- Work on calming the mind. Find a mindfulness routine that will help with learning to listen more to your intuitive side rather than allowing the “monkey mind” to well, spin you out!
- Be aware of the excuses. It is important to recognize that you are the one who is in control of your life. If you want change it is ultimately up to you. So, rather than making excuses, do something about it. The other side to this is, if you aren’t ready to do something about it then I would encourage you to sit with the reason why; the REAL reason why. There might be a lot more to your resistance than you realize. And, often times when we are able to reach this place of awareness, it leads us to figure out ways to move forward.
- Play with the resistance, get out of your comfort zone. If something feels uncomfortable then challenge yourself to push pass that.
- Commit and take action. What can you commit to and what is sustainable? For example, if you are wanting more connection and to meet people, can you commit to finding or joining some type of social activity or group once a week? Once a month? Figure out what works for you and then hold yourself accountable. Remember, we are the creators of our universe and in order to make things happen, we must take action!
- Come work with me! I can help support you to make the change you need in your life. Sometimes all we need is that little bit of extra guidance, motivation, and clearing of energy! Move the gunk. Bring in clarity, feel aligned, calm your system, and play in the magic. It is truly amazing the possibilities of what can be!
How far are you willing to go?
Appreciating where we are in this moment and what we have in our present life can be a challenging concept. As a society, we seem to be caught up in the idea that our happiness lies in our future self; our happiness lies in a distant, far-off place.
Have you ever thought or said the words, “Once I get to this place, ‘fill in the blank’, I will be good?” “I will be happy when…?”, I will be satisfied as soon as…?”
What if rather than existing in a place that has not even happened yet, we chose to exist and cherish where we are now?
I know, it sounds strange. We are over achievers, we compare ourselves to others, we are always striving for more, we thrive in our distractions. We get caught up in our busyness and our stories but, what happens when we come towards the end of our lives and we look back? Do we want to remember the hours we stressed and worked ourselves into a tizzy? Do we want to remember the distractions of screens and social media and things that aren’t real?
Or, do we want to remember our connections with the people we love, the laughter shared? Do we want to remember our real-life experiences that bring us joy; the things we had a passion for; the knowledge we gained, the moments and adventures we lived?
As a culture, I believe that many of us are not connected to ourselves. We don’t know what it means or feels like to be embodied. We are often times in such a state of stress, a constant state of busyness and distractedness, we don’t know where to even begin to find that inner peace or what if feels like to be fulfilled within ourselves; to be comfortable in our own skin.
True happiness comes from within and is something that is achievable and when we are present, we can learn to appreciate everything around us, that much more. Yes, it requires work, yes it requires conscious action and conscious choices. But, please hear me when I say, it is worth every bit of the time and dedication to get there.
I encourage you to take a few deep breaths and think about the questions below and then take the time to sit with your answers.
What attributes do you appreciate about yourself right now?
What do you love in your life right now?
What puts a smile on your face in this present moment?
What are your distractions? Do they leave you feeling fulfilled or are they simply a means of escape?
Are you currently happy? If not, what is preventing you from feeling this way? What changes can you make to get there?
These questions are simply an indicator of where you are currently and to notice what comes up for you. Does your mind rush to answer these questions or are you able to take some deep breaths and really feel into your answers? Presence within ourselves is so very important and it takes practice.
When we can take a moment to set aside the distractions, slow down the mind and feel into something through our bodies, we are allowing our intuition to guide us; we are trusting answers to come from a deeper place.
Believe me, I am one of the first people to encourage setting goals for yourself, for dreaming big and creating a life beyond your dreams!
If you allow yourself to think in terms of, the both and… it is a bit of a paradox. Things in our life aren’t always either or, there are multiple ways to be and at times that can feel like a contradiction but we are complex beings and the way we live our lives is not black and white…
If you aren’t present and able to find contentment within yourself; once that dream is achieved, will you truly appreciate it or will it always be about what is next and about attempting to find happiness through something outside of yourself? Finding a way to appreciate where you are in this moment while also allowing yourself to create what you want in your life is a beautiful place to be.
I don’t know if you all have been feeling the energy lately but astrologically, things have been a bit shaken up. Depending on where you are in your process and what it is that you have been working through, the full moon eclipse and the gradual ending of eclipse season has seemed to bring with it, a bit of a hammer. It has had this way of shaking things loose and forcing us to look at exactly what it is we need to let go to step into our next phase.
When energies are unsettled, it can trigger all sorts of things that we need to either look at, sit with, work through, or release. Often times, especially lately, these triggers can have an anxious or fearful energy. The fearful or anxious energy can be the basis for many of the emotions, the reactions, the explosions that can happen when we are feeling unsettled and not grounded in our body.
What is fear? According to Google, it is “ an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.”
Fear can be a good thing when it comes from a place of survival or instinct. If we are aware and pay attention it can be something that keeps us alive and allows us to react accordingly depending on the threat being presented to us. It is when we immerse ourselves in the fear and it becomes a part of our being, our mind, our reactions, our lives that it is incredibly detrimental .
There are many factors that can contribute to us living our lives in a fearful place. Obviously, we all have our story and our conditioning and many of us are carrying traumas from earlier years that trigger many unwanted emotions within us. It is almost like there needs to be a balance between sitting with and working through what it is that is coming up for us while also making sure it doesn’t take us over and consumer every aspect of our lives.
My teacher always taught me that fear is an illusion and that in order to grow and step into who I truly am, I need to get out of my head. She also stated, that if I could let go of all of my fear, I would be healed immediately. At the time, I thought I understood what she meant by this but the farther along I go on my path the more clearly I can see this illusion and how it can be completely debilitating.
In our society, fear sells. The media loves to inundate us with worse case scenarios, share only stories that focus on the dark side, that create the ideas, the thoughts, the beliefs that our world is nothing but negative, disastrous, and basically evil. And, if you’re not careful you too will experience any of the gazillion worse case scenarios that are shared.
Depending on who we surround ourselves with and what we expose ourselves to, this can be exacerbated. Are we constantly hearing about doomsday? Are we allowing ourselves to dive into the rabbit hole of darkness, death, and destruction?
I am pointing this out as when we focus on the negative and on the worst possible outcomes and allow our minds to marinate, spin out, and hone in on things from this perspective then we are allowing ourselves to live in fear. We are allowing ourselves to exist in the illusion. We are allowing ourselves to have this energy attach to us and not only become part of us but to contribute to the doomsday collective.
What is magic? It is the manipulation of energy. What are our thoughts and our intentions? They are energy. What happens when we constantly focus on the worst possible outcome? The energy of lack? The energy of the negative? We are creating fear. We are allowing negative thoughts to rule who we are and how we respond to our daily lives thus limiting ourselves from creating what we want to create.
When we live in this fear, we inhibit ourselves from doing things that may actually benefit us. We convince ourselves that we can’t do certain things, be a certain way, change our lives, make ourselves happy, be who we really are because if we do any of these things, something bad will happen.
When we live in this mindset, we are living in a frequency that can cause lack, unhappiness, anger, anxiety, depression, and complete stagnancy. It contributes to a state of chaos, a state of fight or flight, it can cause our systems to be in stress mode and can eventually lead to all types of dis-ease that can manifest in any and all levels of our being.
Take me for example. I have done a lot of work around this, a lot. I am aware when fear, when ego, when the monkey mind and that chaotic energy is creeping in. And still, there are times when I am on this journey and I feel overwhelmed.
As with many of you, I am an empath, a sensitive, and I can feel the energy of the collective. I can feel those around me, especially the ones I am close to and if I am not careful, I can take on their energy.
A news headline may pop up on my phone and I allow myself to read and engage in what the media is sharing, and then maybe I read a little more and a little more and a little more. Maybe I think about certain aspects of my life where things could get really bad; Then I listen to some friends or some family members who have strong thoughts, strong opinions, about the way of the world; then I go into the grocery store or out to a public event and there is something energetically there that feeds this pattern, and before I know it; I take it on, it has stuck.
When this happens, I can literally feel things in my life start to shift. The shifts can be different depending on what the situation and energy is and it can manifest in many different ways…
My sleep can be affected. My self-care routine can change and all of a sudden, I am not doing everything I normally do to take care of myself. I can isolate. I am quicker to anger or lose my patience. My creativity diminishes, and the lack mentality can come in. The worst piece can be when all the possible negative outcomes (which do not exist) enter.
Take it a step further, as again, our thoughts and our frequency are energy; my business can slow. I feel stressed. My relationships can be affected. My immune system gets compromised. I feel stagnant or stuck. My mood and energy is lackluster.
When I recognize that this is happening, it is time to take a deep breath and get back into my body. It is time to take a deep breath and calm my mind. It is time to take a deep breath and connect.
For me personally, getting out into nature is an extremely powerful way to not only clear the chaos but feel the connection which allows the fearfulness to slow. Breathing in the Qi, feeling my feet on the earth, listening to the sounds, being in the full immersion brings clarity. Journaling and allowing the thoughts to release as I put them on paper helps to bring a sense of calm. Seeking out energy healing or body work gets things to shift, to move and to clear. Becoming more intentional and mindful of my thoughts and what I am putting out into the world changes the direction of the energy. Diving into my meditation practice and visualizing and focusing on what I want to create rather than what I don’t is literally magic. Performing ceremony around releasing what it is I need to release and again, creating what it is I want to create takes the frequency to an entire new level. Recognizing what is mine and what is not and releasing anything that I have taken on brings my power back. Avoiding the news, social media as well as others whose energy I do not want in my field is protection.
I step back into myself and allow myself to breathe.
Ultimately, I focus on trusting and completely surrendering to the flow of the universe.
The only thing we can control is ourselves. Why waste our time, our energy on perpetuating things that are out of our control? Why create an illusion of something that does not exist? When we surrender to the natural flow and are present with what is, often times things have a way of just working themselves out. The energy shifts from a place of chaos to a place of peace, of calm, of surrender, of love, of flow. I don’t know about you but that is the place I would much rather be. Let’s release the fear.
Sending love and light to each and every one of you and as always, I am here.
